{"id":7,"date":"2024-06-12T01:29:54","date_gmt":"2024-06-12T01:29:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/?page_id=7"},"modified":"2024-06-12T22:11:16","modified_gmt":"2024-06-12T22:11:16","slug":"home","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/","title":{"rendered":"Home"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"7\" class=\"elementor elementor-7\" data-elementor-post-type=\"page\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c36dedd e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"c36dedd\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f459e3f elementor-widget-mobile__width-initial elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"f459e3f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 25-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2000\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/hero01B.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-23\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/hero01B.png 2000w, https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/hero01B-300x45.png 300w, https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/hero01B-1024x154.png 1024w, https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/hero01B-768x115.png 768w, https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/hero01B-1536x230.png 1536w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 2000px) 100vw, 2000px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-76ba05c e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"76ba05c\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3e21ece elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3e21ece\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 25-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">A pragmatic, real-world approach to learning and understanding how we got to be who we are and how to become who we want to be.<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-db71ad4 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"db71ad4\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-800749e e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"800749e\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0787c39 elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"0787c39\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"322\" height=\"787\" src=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/footprints.jpg\" class=\"attachment-medium_large size-medium_large wp-image-102\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/footprints.jpg 322w, https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/footprints-123x300.jpg 123w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 322px) 100vw, 322px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7b08704 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"7b08704\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-20804d8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"20804d8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">About Life Patterns Counseling<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b88d493 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b88d493\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 25-07-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p>Life Patterns Counseling works very differently than other traditional counseling and coaching approaches. This is not traditional Psychology or New Age or spiritual program or religion based. It\u2019s not about steps or higher powers, it\u2019s about you. It\u2019s about understanding not just who you are in real life, but most importantly, how you got to be you. It&#8217;s about what it means to be you, to yourself and those around you and what about can change (a lot, it turns out).<\/p><p>Life Patterns Counseling is about uncovering and understanding how you operate, how you make, and have made, decisions in your life and investigating how that has worked for you- as well as how that has not served you well. This may sound simple, but included in these decisions are complex issues from your interpersonal relationships and their legacy, your physical environment, your work and play lives, your talent and relationship with substances and their use and perhaps abuse.<\/p><p>This is not about theories, mysticism or Freud\u2019s cigar, it\u2019s about looking at your own history, often in ways that are not easy, but that&#8217;s where the power lies. It\u2019s about discovering the patterns and series of choices and events that have shaped who you are and better understanding them- and most importantly it\u2019s about deciding the best avenues and approaches for your future.<\/p><p>Most importantly, Life Patterns are not judgmental. It is only by facing those parts of ourselves that have created challenges for us that we can address them and change our lives, and that has to be done frankly and openly.\u00a0<\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5170471 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"5170471\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Life Patterns Counseling is 100% confidential. <\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5456da1 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"5456da1\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d36e3be e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"d36e3be\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7f2925f elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"7f2925f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"294\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic07-400-02-294x300.png\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium wp-image-96\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic07-400-02-294x300.png 294w, https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic07-400-02.png 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 294px) 100vw, 294px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6ce9b38 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"6ce9b38\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-afea377 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"afea377\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Romantic Relationships<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-eacfe0d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"eacfe0d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Who among us has not be baffled by the romantic choices that some of our friends, and even our own family members, have made? Romantic relationships are the biggest and most important choices we make in our lives, and there is no guidebook and no training. The primary reason for this is that there are no right or wrong answers that apply to everyone, but there are guidelines and warning signs that we all too often ignore. Sexual attraction can overwhelm all of the other essential qualities and traits we need to healthy relationships with growth potential, but there are also so many other contributing factors, and most of them change as we mature.<\/p><p>Life Patterns Counseling is about learning to better understand these choices, how and why we have made them, what has worked and what not so much. It\u2019s also about contending with the reality that we are all attracted to different people and qualities at different times in our lives. Today\u2019s ubiquitous online dating opportunities can further confuse the process by turning it into a game or a sport that in and of itself can become destructive and addictive.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7b1494e e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"7b1494e\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0817dc7 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"0817dc7\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4909087 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"4909087\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"294\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic02-400-02-294x300.png\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium wp-image-91\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic02-400-02-294x300.png 294w, https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic02-400-02.png 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 294px) 100vw, 294px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4c90621 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"4c90621\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9dc6a73 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"9dc6a73\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Couples<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-072d49a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"072d49a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Couples that decide to come and work with us have already made a very important step and have showed each other that they value the relationship and want to work on it. Being a couple is more challenging than ever before for a wide variety of reasons, both internal and external. In the vast majority of cases, communication is the primary issue, either the quality, or the absence, of it. For example, couples often have disagreements over things that are not really the actual problem. What we refer to as \u201cpaving\u201d invariably plays a key role- when disagreements, disappointments, unmet expectations or upsets are not dealt with, get pushed aside and get \u201cpaved over.\u201d The issues almost never go away, however, and like weeds, they will crack the pavement and grow through. Sometimes it\u2019s because one or both feel the issue is intractable and therefore not worth pursuing, or one or both don\u2019t want \u201cto get started\u201d and ruin a day or evening.<\/p><p>Of course, not all challenges can be resolved, easily or at all, but the vast majority can be with focused attention and partners willing to do the work.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2438c22 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"2438c22\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fe17bea e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"fe17bea\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4805452 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"4805452\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"400\" height=\"408\" src=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic06-400-02.png\" class=\"attachment-medium_large size-medium_large wp-image-83\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic06-400-02.png 400w, https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic06-400-02-294x300.png 294w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-eefb9eb e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"eefb9eb\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5f93a5f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"5f93a5f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Addiction and Self-control<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-829cfc6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"829cfc6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>\u201cAddiction\u201d is a very misunderstood word that we all see endlessly in our media and culture. There are really two kinds of addiction, physical and mental, and they are not at all the same. Physical addition we understand much better, when our body gets chemically connected to a substance and it needs and craves more. Chemical addition presents the brain with conflicting messages that can be very difficult to overcome and in the cases of some substances such as Crystal Meth or opioids, they can be almost impossible. But it is possible. It can be done.<\/p><p>The other kind of addiction is very different, it\u2019s purely mental. People can be addicted to gambling, online dating and shopping, pornography, shoplifting, social media, or even other people. The list seems almost endless. These can manifest as obsessional behavior that overrides our intellectual selves pushing us to behave in ways that we almost always know are not positive and will not serve us- and are even destructive- even as we\u2019re engaged in them . Like physical addictions, they are not easy to overcome but they can be but these can be the hardest challenges to contend with because they are invariably the darkest parts of ourselves. As with any addiction, the first step is always to talk about them, get them out into the open and away from that part of our mind that makes excuses to itself.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-37aab8e e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"37aab8e\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a9766af e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"a9766af\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b626125 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"b626125\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"400\" height=\"408\" src=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic05-400-02.png\" class=\"attachment-medium_large size-medium_large wp-image-74\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic05-400-02.png 400w, https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic05-400-02-294x300.png 294w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f1fac5d e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"f1fac5d\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1f8106b elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1f8106b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Family Relationships<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5f7cc16 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5f7cc16\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Family relationships are not usually substantively different from romantic ones, aside from sex, they just have more history. But the same basic principles invariably apply- disagreements, disappointments, unmet expectations or upsets are not dealt with, get pushed aside and get \u201cpaved over.\u201d Grudges also play a key role, often lasting decades. Too often that most toxic word of all for family relationships- \u201cinheritance\u201d rears it\u2019s ugly head. Family relationships are also often complicated by break-ups, divorces and remarriages that add new actors to the play. Sometimes, as with divorce, the challenges are unbreachable and the goal is simply to find a workable status quo of coexistence.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bd79cca e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"bd79cca\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-223ffa3 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"223ffa3\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-57f69f9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"57f69f9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"400\" height=\"408\" src=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic04-400-02.png\" class=\"attachment-medium_large size-medium_large wp-image-63\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic04-400-02.png 400w, https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic04-400-02-294x300.png 294w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-49b3da7 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"49b3da7\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3933244 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3933244\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Work and Employment<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d6f8974 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d6f8974\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>We all have two work resumes, one is the standard chronology of the jobs we\u2019ve had, but there is also an underlying one that tells the story of why we had those jobs why. In reality, the vast majority of us did not choose our vocations, and many don\u2019t even remember how they got into profession they are in now. Often it was because of family or friendly connections. But the long-term story of our working lives is really about politics.<\/p><p>Every workplace has politics- also known as &#8220;drama and gossip&#8221;- that are major factors in determining who gets what job, which promotion and who gets left behind or dismissed. Some of us know how to win but most don\u2019t and Life Patterns is about reviewing decisions, relationships, to develop an understanding of how you got to \u201chere.\u201d That tells us everything we need to know about where \u201chere\u201d is and is it the right place? And if not, how to move on and improve to overcome barriers to be in a better situation with better prospects, whether or not that requires a new challenge or repairing the existing one.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-63e28ec e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"63e28ec\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4077aaa e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"4077aaa\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a0d0350 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"a0d0350\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"294\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic03-400-02-294x300.png\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium wp-image-62\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic03-400-02-294x300.png 294w, https:\/\/lifepatternscounseling.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/graphic03-400-02.png 400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 294px) 100vw, 294px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c2ddc84 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"c2ddc84\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cf40cf5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"cf40cf5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Regrets and mistakes<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3391047 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3391047\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>We all have made mistakes and have regrets, but some of them have been more consequential, even fatal. Context matters and guilt and regret can too easily become disproportionate. While this is easier said than done, to work is to give them, and you, some perspective and to put them into their rightful place in our minds so that they don\u2019t rule over our day to day lives.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0c6c818 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"0c6c818\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-081f718 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"081f718\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Contact us for a free 30 minute Zoom or phone introductory session. <\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f062345 elementor-button-align-stretch 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